When someone at work has said something noticeably objectionable, it’s time to speak up.
Caught off guard is ok. Don’t worry about being caught off guard. If words don’t come to you immediately, collect your thoughts and find a way to say them later. If, however, someone else speaks up on the spot, support that person. You know what it took for him or her to say something.
Never too late. Don't be afraid to return to the issue; it’s never too late, even if what you wanted to say at the time comes to you in the middle of a meeting or a workplace gathering. If it's weighing on your mind, it's likely weighing on the minds of others.
Stick to the issue. Stick to the issue, and if the perpetrator wants to sidetrack by pointing out the bad habits of others, insist on sticking to the words that caused you to speak up.
Don’t lambaste, but don’t soft-pedal. Whatever you do, don't try to soft-pedal a situation when strong words are warranted. No need to lambaste a person who made an outrageous comment, but it's really important that the person knows your workplace won't tolerate offensive language.
Be prepared to stand alone. Be prepared to stand alone. Because most employees are conflict averse, you may find others unwilling to join you. You'll have to decide if it's worth it for you.
You’re not doing anyone any favours by letting them make offensive or inappropriate comments. Sometimes a person gets away with comments for a long time and then when a formal complaint is made, the consequences are severe. If the comments were stopped early on, all the subsequent problems could have been avoided. And when more people challenge certain comments, the person making them will realize there’s no audience for inappropriate or offensive language.
There is so much more to a respectful workplace, but if you get a good start on these items, you’ll be well ahead of most workplaces.