Here's a FREE selection of articles that address many different problems and situations in your workplace.
WHEN A PERSON IS CALLED ON THEIR COMMENTS OR JOKES,
THEIR RESPONSE IS "IT'S ONLY A JOKE" OR “CAN'T YOU TAKE A JOKE?”
A WOMAN IN A MALE DOMINATED WORKPLACE GETS LESS THAN KIND
COMMENTS FROM THE GUYS AND WHEN ASKED ABOUT IT QUIETLY,
SHE SAYS IT DOESN'T BOTHER HER, OR SHE CAN TAKE IT
ASKING A PERSON WHO IS CONSIDERED A "MINORITY"
TO DO TASKS OTHERS ARE REQUIRED TO DO, YET THEY CRY FOUL
EMPLOYEES WHO MAKE DISPARAGING COMMENTS ABOUT MANAGEMENT AND MANAGERS WHO MAKE DISPARAGING COMMENTS ABOUT UNIONS, GENERALLY
WHEN SEVERAL EMPLOYEES MAKE DEROGATORY COMMENTS ABOUT
ANOTHER EMPLOYEE, WHO IS NOT PRESENT, AND OUTSIDE OF WORK
WHEN SOMEONE TELLS A JOKE, MOST PEOPLE LAUGH, BUT IT'S INAPPROPRIATE, ESPECIALLY FOR ONE PARTICULAR EMPLOYEE, BUT NO ONE SAYS ANYTHING
WHEN EMPLOYEES DON'T WANT TO PICK UP THE SLACK BECAUSE A CHRISTIAN EMPLOYEE NEEDS TIME OFF FOR MASS AND WON'T WORK ON SUNDAYS
WHEN AN EMPLOYEE TAKES PART IN REPUGNANT, BUT NOT ILLEGAL ACTIVITIES, SUCH AS A WHITE SUPREMACIST GROUP, OUTSIDE OF WORK
YET NEVER SAYS OR DOES ANYTHING AT WORK
WHEN TWO EMPLOYEES WERE VERY GOOD FRIENDS, BUT HAD A PHYSICAL FIGHT OUTSIDE WORK AND NOW ONE OF THEM WON'T WORK WITH THE OTHER
OVER SOME OPEN FORM OF COMMUNICATION (RADIO OR GROUP EMAIL) AN EMPLOYEE STATES ABOUT ONE OF THE GUYS, "IT MUST BE THAT TIME OF THE MONTH" BECAUSE THIS FELLOW WAS BEING TOO EMOTIONAL
WHEN A WOMAN CAN’T DO THE SAME PHYSICAL WORK
A MALE CO-WORKER CAN DO, BUT IT’S ONLY A SMALL PART OF THE JOB
WHEN A PERSON APPEARS ALMOST RUDE IN EMAILS, BUT IN PERSON THEY COME ACROSS DIFFERENTLY – CONSIDERATE
WHEN SOMEONE WON’T TAKE “NO” FOR AN ANSWER – THEY HAVE EXHAUSTED ALL APPEALS AND PEOPLE DON’T SEE IT HIS WAY
WHEN SOMEONE IS AFRAID TO SAY ANYTHING TO SOMEONE WHO IS “DIFFERENT” FOR FEAR OF A COMPLAINT OR INSULTING THESE PEOPLE
PERSONS LOWER THEIR VOICES WHEN TALKING ABOUT SOMEONE WHO IS (WHISPER) “BLACK”
So many times people are criticized for being “too thin skinned.” If someone can’t take the slightest comment of any kind, that can wear thin…and we often feel we can’t say anything in front of the person. However, there are some people who are “too thick skinned” where they can take any inappropriate comments or insults and these comments never bother them, or don’t seem to bother them. That might not be a problem because perhaps they’ll live longer than the rest of us. The problem in this situation of being “too” thick skinned, is when these same people believe that since they can take anything hurled at them, everyone else can put up with the same inappropriate comments or behaviours. What you want to get across is that while they can handle certain things, others shouldn’t have to.
When an incident takes place where they say “lighten up” or “that doesn’t bother me,” when it clearly bothers another person, or more than one person, you should explain that not everyone is willing or should be willing to take abuse. Explain that no one should take inappropriate comments, but if he chooses to (and you or others don’t hear about it – because you’d want to address those comments), that is his choice, but it’s not the standard we’re striving for in our workplace. Also get across that there is nothing wrong with the co-worker who isn’t willing to put up with abuse – so this person should not be made to feel as though they’ve done anything wrong.
“It is clear that you can take anything coming your way. I’d like to commend you on not getting bothered by comments that I would find insulting. Perhaps you’ll live longer than the rest of us who aren’t willing to put up with those comments. However, that isn’t the standard we are trying to achieve in our workplace. If others ask people at work to be more considerate in their communication, please don’t make them feel they have done anything wrong. They haven’t, however those insulting others are the ones doing something wrong and we’ll continue to correct such behaviour, even if you have no issue with it.”
Stephen Hammond, B.A., LL.B., CSP
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